Thursday, September 2, 2010

So Are You To Me

Happy Labor Day weekend!! Labor Day weekend is a favorite of mine... it's usually the most beautiful weather weekend of the year, and it's a last sweet taste of summer, mingled with the delicious feeling of early fall and the arrival of September. During college, it was always that chance to go home to the warmth and comfort of my family just after school and syllabus shock had threatened to set in. Labor Day weekend feels like crawling back into bed with cool, clean sheets on a Saturday after you woke up and thought it was a school day. It's so lovely, wouldn't you agree?

But of course, Labor Day weekend four years ago, was the most lovely of all. It was the weekend Neal and I chose for our wedding day. If there is a crisp, cool morning, with pure blue sky and warm sun this weekend, you'll know what it felt like to be at our wedding. That, and I've included a set of pictures to help you see it (or remember it) more vibrantly.

It was unpretentious and family-oriented, with kids and babies and church family and college friends and sisters and brothers, with love as the centerpiece. Love not just between the bride and groom, but for everyone to feast upon and celebrate. It's the best and most beautiful memory I have, and I now always spend Labor Day weekend with a full, full heart, tears, and lots of joy.

Because that's the way I roll... I love to celebrate, to feel, to remember. Life on high definition is how Neal refers to my celebratory ways.

And this year, oh this year. We never, never would have seen this devastating health crisis coming on the pages of our newlywed book. (And yes, we still consider ourselves newlyweds.) But our year has made this anniversary celebration so much richer and deeper. I didn't see that coming. Somehow, in an unexpected way, there seems like so much more to celebrate. Because for all that was lost in life circumstance and ease, there was more patience, more serving, more sacrifice, more trust, more caring, more giving, more faithfulness, more endurance, more believing, more love and commitment there to celebrate.

My anniversary card for Neal, a letterpress card from Papersource (my favorite place for cards!), has one simple statement on it, with a picture of a tandem bicycle. It says: "I couldn't have done it without you." Thank you Papersource, for perfection. Thank you Papersource, for risking me tearing up in your little shop. Thank you Papersource, for making me spend $$$ on a card.

Now then. Enjoy the stream of pictures from our Labor Day weekend wedding, and this East Mountain South song, So Are You To Me, that was part of our wedding ceremony, as well as the music for our bride & groom dance. I've never heard it anywhere else. It's beautiful, and it's now always a part of my Labor Day weekend play list.

So Are You To Me

As the music at the banquet,
As the wine before the meal,
As the firelight in the night,
So are you to me.

As the ruby in the setting,
As the fruit upon the tree,
As the wind blows over the plains,
So are you to me.

As the lily of the valley,
So white and pure and sweet,
So are you to my eyes, to my heart, to my life.

As the sunshine to the heavens,
As the king unto his realm,
As the sailor to the helm,
So are you to me.

As the candle in the dark,
As the manna in the ark,
As the dew unto the grass,
As the image in the glass,
As the honey in the comb,
As the father in the home,
As the the sunset over the water,

So are you to me.

As the wind blows over the plains,
So are you to me.
So are you to me.





































































Sunday, August 29, 2010

Clingings to Psalm 139

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You have searched me and known me. You know when I sit down and rise up.

You discern my thoughts from afar. You search out my path and my lying down.

You are acquainted with all my ways. Even before a word is on my tongue, you know it.

You hem me in behind and before. You lay your hand upon me.

Such knowledge is too wonderful for me. It is high, I cannot attain it.

Where shall I go from your spirit? Or where shall I flee from your presence?

If I ascend to heaven, you are there. If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there.

If I take the wings of the morning and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,

Even there your hand shall lead me. And your right hand shall hold me.

Good thing, because I feel like I am losing myself.

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Book Review

Do you have a stack of books you've eaten up this summer?

Or perhaps, an untouched stack of well-intentioned summer reading?

Or maybe you had just one book you got through, but it was your defining book of the summer.

As summer is waning, I have a few books left in my summer reading pile that will have to carry over to fall coffee shop dates.

Isn't it exciting that fall is around the corner? Fall is my fave season.

But as for summer reading, I have a fave to share with you. Not favorite like my first Russian novel, or my first Emily Bronte (both defining books of my summer), but favorite as in best book I've read in awhile.

The book is called, "Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain," by Dr. William Struthers.


Not exactly what you expected, right? I realize that only a clinical psychology major would likely choose this book as her favorite summer read, but this book really is that good, and I recommend it to anyone.

"Wired for Intimacy" is recently out by a professor of psychology at Wheaton College. He teaches courses on behavioral neuroscience, men and addictions, and the biological bases of behavior. I know from my time at Wheaton that his classes are always full, and time with him is extremely coveted.

So, I read the book and got 189 pages with him. It was worth every page.

As a neuroscientist and researcher, Struthers explains how pornography effects the brain in a chapter he calls, "Your Brain on Porn." His explanations are scientific, but concise and reader-friendly, and the material is ground-breaking.

He shows how pornography disrupts and alters the brain's normal capacities and functions for intimacy, but he also spends much of the book making practical talk out of what it means to be made male in God's image, what it means to be masculine, and the male need for intimacy in relationships. It is so refreshing, insightful, and practical.

Why read this book? For me those reasons involved my connection to Wheaton and my interest in Dr. Struthers' work, my interest in psychology and counseling, and my and Neal's work with college students, for whom pornography is so often an issue.

You may read this book for any number of reasons, but regardless, you'll walk away with

1) a renewed passion for God's intent for, and gift of, intimacy
2) an increased respect for God's creation of both the human brain and the creation of His laws
3) a vision for achievable, healthy and holy male sexuality
4) and a confidence in understanding the modern, current issue of pornography.

There are also resources listed in the back of the book to help men out of the snare of pornography and sexual addictions.

I hope to circulate this helpful book in whatever ways I can, and I hope you'll do the same.

To learn more, visit www.wiredforintimacy.blogspot.com